This blog is by Shyam Ramanathan. The purpose of this blog is to inspire, motivate, share insights on leadership,management,personal development,success and share book reviews. The views expressed here are his own and do not represent his organization.
Stress is one of the leading causes of depression and
considering the pace of our modern lives we should pause and reevaluate our
lives on a constant basis. As Mahatma Gandhi said "There is
more to life than increasing its speed."
Here are some simple strategies to be relaxed
on others - It involves taking the focus away
from you and show interest in other people’s problems. When you start focusing
on others problems you become more relaxed.
an abundance mentality –
There is plenty of credit to go around. Enjoy others success and avoid the
necessity to prove yourself on a constant basis.
one day at a time - What I have found useful is
to take one day at a time. Just concentrate on what has to be done that day and
once that is taken care sleep peacefully. The rest of the days will take care
more patient – One of the reasons we are
stressed is because we feel a lack of time. We want get everything done in a
hurry. The way to overcome this is to become more patient.
yourself the question “Will this matter a year from now” -This thinking puts life in perspective. Yes we all
blow things out of proportion at times but this question can help us get our
your life sentence – Imagine yourself at your
deathbed and assess how you would view your life. Would you be happy with what
you are doing now? If you are not happy make changes now. Once you know deeply
what you are in it for you will be more purposeful and relaxed at the same
Solitude - This can be just 10 min with
yourself. All experts suggest to practice the magic of solitude and some of the
great works have come about due to a lot of time spent being alone.
argue - Yes sometimes we might have all
the facts and hence we can argue endlessly to ensure we are always right. But
as a wise man said do you want to be right or happy. Choosing the latter might
be a better way to go.
Humble – Humility and inner peace go
hand in hand. As Ken Blanchard said "Humility is not thinking less of
yourself but it is thinking of yourself less."
others-This is an amazing strategy as this
takes the focus of yourself and as they say you can only get what you give out.
when you are angry - The key is to understand
when we are not feeling good and quickly change that attitude to
one thing at a time- Allocate some time for doing one
activity at a time without distraction. As someone said Multitasking is the
death of creativity.
grateful - Yes being grateful is the first
step towards being relaxed and happy. Yes having a long term vision is good but
only if we appreciate what we have we can be truly happy.
happy with what you have –
Don’t postpone happiness. This is a follow-up to the earlier point. Unless we
are happy with where we are it is difficult to enjoy our day to day lives.
enough sleep and rise early-This is a
very important one as if we do arise early then we get some alone time to plan
the day better and maybe even get a quick workout. However it depends on when
you get to sleep as well so plan to be early to sleep to early rise.
on love -As Mother Teresa said "We can
do no great things, only small things with great love."
full blast today - The bottom line is we only
have a finite number of days to live. When we think along those lines life does
become more important and we don't waste time on the wrong things. Give
your best every day and other things will be taken care.
your weakness - It is important to be aware
of your weakness and then identify how you can improve on that area.
and evaluate constantly -
When you feel stress coming take a time out and reassess the situation. I think
stress arises due to a perceived lack of time and lack of control. So we need
to constantly reevaluate and assess our pace of lives on a constant basis to
ensure we stay grounded.
are not alone - Life becomes easier when you
have a lighter heart. This is another way of saying don't take yourself too
All the strategies above are meant to reduce our overall
stress and stay relaxed. Ultimately whatever we can do to increase our
happiness and reduce our stress levels is well worth the effort.
The views expressed here are my own and do not represent my organization.
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Exercise – All presidents exercise nearly daily. President Obama exercises first thing fo…
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The book “The Power of Ethical Management” by Ken Blanchard
and Norman Vincent Peale was published in 1988. The principles laid out in this
book are still relevant today. It consists of information which is of timeless
value and serves as a worthy reminder on ethics and its importance. I
particularly liked the 5 core principles of ethical decision making mentioned
in the book. Here are the 5P’s of Ethical Power Purpose – The authors define purpose as ongoing. It is
something an individual lives by. A personal mission statement of an individual
can serve as the purpose. It is the vision you have for yourself and what you
would like to be known for. The authors mention something called the mirror
test where you look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself if everything
you are doing is aligned to your purpose. If there is anything not aligned to
your purpose ignore it. I like this line “There is no pillow as soft
as a clear conscience.”Pride – A healthy self-esteem is a corner stone fo…
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Here is my summary of learning and you can consider these 9 keys as an introduction to stoicism. Your interpretation of events – You will not be surprised with this one. As Shakespeare said “There is nothing good or bad thinking makes it so.” What this means is everything in life happens and it is your interpretation of events that is the key to staying relaxed. It is the meaning you give to events that make all the difference. For example I am overweight by 10 pounds and I can stress about it all I want but it is a fact. All I can do is continue exercising daily and doing even more to reduce further. …